Proposed to be a second wife, can you refuse?

WHEN a man proposes to a woman, the woman has the right to accept or reject him. A woman may refuse a man's proposal, whether it is sharia or personal. Because if a man's proposal to a woman is forced, problems may arise in the future.

Then what if a woman is asked to become a second wife while the one who proposes is a pious man?

Reported by Rumah Fiqh, in Islamic sharia, a father is prohibited from forcing a mate for his daughter. Moreover, just a prospective husband, where his application really depends on the acceptance of the prospective wife. So the prospective wife has the full right and authority to accept an application or reject it. Either with reasons that make sense to the applicant or not. Because it could be that the rejection factor is something that does not want to be mentioned openly.

As for the hadith which states that there will be slander when a woman refuses the application of a pious man, of course it must be understood completely and clearly. The hadith is not in a position to stipulate that an application from a pious man is forbidden to be rejected. That is not the legal content.

Because if that's the case, what about the application of a pious man to a princess or a high-ranking official, where the two are not compatible or are not compatible with each other? Is it a sin for the princess to refuse a proposal from someone she doesn't like?

Even in Islamic sharia, a woman who is married but feels unsuitable with her husband, still has the right to divorce from her husband. What's more, just a proposal from a man who already has a wife.

From Ibn Abbas ra.: Verily the wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Messenger of Allah, she said: O Messenger of Allah, "I do not criticize her (Tsabit) in terms of her morals or religion, but I hate disbelief (because I am unable to fulfill her obligations) in Islam. ” So the Messenger of Allah said to him, "Are you returning to your husband his garden?" The woman replied, "Yes." So the Messenger of Allah said to Thabit, "Accept the garden and divorce it once." (HR Bukhari, Nasa'y and Ibn Majah. Nailul Authar 6/246)

In order not to be slanderous, of course there is a way of rejection that is subtle and gentle, without offending, but the applicant can accept the essence, namely rejection. So that the feared slander does not need to happen.

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